Feeling lonely and loneliness – Thoughts

Why do we feel alone when we are actually all together? Think about looking at Earth from space. What do you see? Are our feelings of loneliness a matter of perspective and perception?

The other day a friend of mine asked me: “Who are you there with?”. I asked, What do you mean?, she asked again: “Are you there by yourself?” I replied: ‘I am here with myself and all the people who live in this city’ But what was also equally true, is that I was there with her also, no matter the distance or the online conversation we were having.

The human experience is one that we all share and we are all in it together

This got me thinking, that perhaps feeling lonely is a way of disconnecting and more so feeling misunderstood.

Why do we feel lonely if we are all interconnected?

It is important to think that we are all players in this game of life in our own way. Even the people that are way different to us, are also part of us. Feeling lonely can also feel like hopelessness. So it is important to reflect on these feelings, identify them and think: What can I do about it? or Who have I been this far in my life to be now feeling this way?.

Usually, in those moments, we tend to think things like “I have no friends” or “No-one cares”, it is in these moments that we should question if our perception of things is accurate. It is quite likely that you do have friends, but you just don’t enjoy their company that much, and that you have people that care for you, but you don’t think this is the case.

What can you do about it?

If you are seeing yourself often in a situation that you don’t like, it is always good to question why this is. Is it a matter of perspective and perception, or have you also contributed to it? Could it be that we feel lonely or unseen because we haven’t really shown our true selves?

Below I am sharing one of my very personal voice notes that sometimes I record when thoughts come into my mind.